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I am happy to give a reference to anyone I have met in the past 10 years, but I respectfully request you adhere to these guidelines; 

1. For each instance we have met, feel free to use me around 3 times as a reference. After this, a nice thank you gift is appropriate to keep the references flowing. 

2. Please do not ask me in advance if you can use me as a reference. This is one more item in my inbox to deal with. The answer is "yes", you can use me as a reference. 

3. Only contact me about a reference if your contact information has changed. If she has a new phone number or email address that I don't have, you need to update that information with me first. 

4. Tell the provider to contact me by email or direct her to this page. I do not like to give references via text or phone. 

5. Understand that in my reply to her I will tell her how long ago we met and if you have ever canceled. Also I will let her know how you handled the cancelation. It is up to her to decide if she will accept the reference at that point. 

For providers requesting a reference:

I am more than happy to provide a reference for any client I have seen in the past 10 years. Please let me know if you have a bad experience with anyone I have given a reference for and I will add that information to my notes to share with any future requests. Please include all the information below in an email to

  1. Include your name and website. It is not my job to Google you. I only give references to established providers.

  2. Include the client's first and last name.

  3. Include the client's email and phone number.

I cannot guarantee the behavior of any client. All I can tell you is my experience. I actually hate it when someone asks, "Is he safe to see?" I can tell you if I felt safe with him. I can tell you my thoughts on his hygiene and manners. I can tell you if I would see him again. It is up to you to take a wholistic approach to screening and decide if you want to spend time with him. 

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